A goal without a plan is just a wish. But sometimes, you need more than that. Sometimes it’s got to be driven from within. Here’s three steps to successfully achieving all of your goals which-when followed properly- will give you the real foundations that will enable you to build everything you want in your life and more: the big things, the little things and all the rest in between! Because it’s the principals that matter. It all comes down to how your brain works. Intrigued? Alright then, let’s give it a go…
STEP 1: Get Disturbed
Sounds like a bit of a funny way to start hey? But the doom-ier and gloom-ier you get: THE BETTER! Often, when things are just ‘ok’ or ‘not that bad’, people will keep things how they are because it will cause more pain to go to the effort to change than it will to just stay the same. It all relates to the controlling factors of pain and pleasure and how every action we take is to try to gain one or avoid the other. See, if you really want to stop a habit, create change in a particular aspect of your life, or achieve those dreams you’ve been putting off up until now- you need to stir up some serious negativity over staying how you currently are. You want to make it so that NOT taking action is more painful than doing the things that are out of your comfort zone but which will get you to where you want to be. Does that make sense?
If so, jot down all the things you’re missing out on by not going after that goal, think of the consequences of continuing the way you are and don’t get upset, but instead get frustrated and determined! This will be a huge fuel for your motivation and something you can look back on to keep you going when times get tough. Although it may not feel like it right now: it’s actually going to be your best friend and really help you on your mission to achieve your goals.
STEP 2: Get Excited
Onto the other end of the spectrum, we want to look at all the things you’ll gain once you achieve your goals: how your life will change for the better. See, it’s not actually about WHAT we want, but moreso WHY we want it: what it will give us and why that’s so important to us. Don’t just look at the obvious reasons- dig deep. Think emotionally, financially, how it will enhance your relationship, the new doors and opportunities it will open: the lot! If you set a goal, you want it to be important to you so write down all these reasons here too.
When you have strong enough reasons WHY, you will always find the HOW to get you there!
Another good motivator is to find people who have successfully achieved what you want to achieve and use them as a role-model; a point to aim for and take guidance from. After all- if they’ve done it, what is stopping you from doing it to? I know you know the answer… Absolutely nothing! Can’t find anyone who’s done anything like what you want to do? Then find someone who’s still achieved the ‘un-achievable’, because there are plenty of success stories out there to inspire you and make you dig a little deeper to explore ways you can get to your end goal.
STEP 3: Get Committed
This is the big one! If you’ve followed the steps above -and have actually done them properly- you’ll know roughly what aspects you’re dissatisfied with in your life and you also know how it would be enhanced if you changed. Now it’s time to get clear and specific on exactly what you want to achieve and how. If it’s a big goal- break it down into chunks so it seems more manageable and don’t forget to add in incentives. Give yourself rewards for reaching the goals that take you to the ultimate one. For example- you want to save X amount which will enable you to travel to X, or X: once you hit that goal, treat yourself with an outfit you’d love to take with you! Or, if you want to become a digital nomad but need a sturdy business to begin with, when you hit X amount of sales, go out for a celebratory meal! Trust me: it really helps with motivation and keeps you going, especially because at times you’ll have to make sacrifices to get to where you want to be.
CHALLENGE: WRITE A LIST OF ALL THE THINGS YOU’D LIKE TO DO THIS NEXT YEAR AND TIE THEM INTO YOUR GOALS. AFTER ALL: IT CAN’T BE ALL WORK AND NO PLAY!
Things To Consider:
Now, if you set a complex target- you may not know straight away the EXACT plan of action to get you there and this is ok. But do your research- like I mentioned above about role models- see how others have made it happen and replicate that until you find a way that’s right for you. Or start by taking the first steps towards achieving it and set another date that you will analyse your goals again and the best ways to progress from there. You’ll learn and grow as you go, so you don’t need to have everything figured out immediately, but you do have to have your first strategy in place and be committed to getting there through target-setting.
It’s easy to drift away from your goals- especially when they’re not entirely simple or easy to achieve. That’s why we add the driving factors using pain & pleasure, and have these milestones to work towards that will take you there step by step.
Aside from each stepping stone/ target- set deadlines and action plans: tasks you need to complete to achieve it. If these things don’t work, don’t give up- simply get back to the drawing board to try a new approach.
Speak to different people; study things further; try, try and try again! Because if you refuse to give up and are constantly learning along the way, I guarantee you will find your way there eventually.
Let’s take the losing weight example. (A common challenge and goal…) See if you have a goal to lose X stone in lets say 6 months, break it down to what you need to lose each month and then schedule the actions you’ll take towards it each week and when. Don’t just say- I’ll achieving this by working out more. On which days will you work out? For how long? Doing what activity? What other things may impact it- e.g. diet, fitting it in around a busy schedule, staying healthy when out with friends and family etc. The more you put into this, the more you’ll get out and often: the hardest part about getting yourself to take action is simply starting! Set up a schedule that is realistic and achievable and once you start sticking to it, it will start to become a habit and get easier.
All of those reasons why you MUST do this and you WANT to do this will be your motivation to get you started and then keep you going. Look at the mindset you have towards it all too. Don’t think of it as a chore, but instead something good and positive and EXCITING… Remember- these things are going to change your life. If you’re losing weight, this won’t just be a one-time goal, but a continued lifestyle change to then sustain that weight and level of fitness, which is why it’s even more important to have those strong reasons behind wanting to do it! Likewise with business: it will transform not only your lifestyle and future, but the future of your family and loved ones. Like any goal you have: it won’t always be easy but you need to always be driven by why it will be worth it. Don’t create temporary change, create life-long change by making these things happen and then developing them into habits.
“If you talk about it, its a dream. If you envision it, its possible. When you schedule it- its REAL…”
Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by CHANGE. If you truly want to change your life, start by changing your mindset. All of this is in your hands and he best time to start is NOW!
Thanks for reading, That says a lot I really hope this has helped in some way. Wishing you all the best in your journey.
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